“No-one ever sees that last moment
the eroded rock becomes sand
But if they did, they would hear
The Sea singing.” – Jalal-ud-Din Rumi
Dear friends, near and far,
Listening to Brene Brown’s brave and excellent book, Dare to Lead, her every word rings true for me. – “When I’m scared, I make bad decisions.” Me too Brene. Nearly always.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world.” Where are all these really annoying wise people coming from anyway?
As Linus tells his BFF in one of my favorite Peanuts cartoons, “I’m staying in bed Snoopy. It’s too peopley out there.” You know it Linus. Human beings can be pesky critters for sure. That may be why it’s so remarkable when one of us gets past our fear and risks his or her heart. Great risk vs. true freedom.
Brene challenges us to be, “neither Victim nor Viking – Strong back. Soft front. Wild heart.” She invites us, as so many wise teachers do, to be real. Real and out there in the world where our deepest truth can be seen. That’s the rub, isn’t it? To be brave and stay vulnerable. To exchange that primal need for safety, held tightly in the bunker, for the expansive though risky yet rewarding safety of community. Can’t I just be real in my bedroom with my cats and my Kindle? Have real thoughts, I’m mean if they’re super deep ones?
Certainly, it’s a start. It’s where courage begins. The baby bird standing at the edge of the cliff and thinking about flying. Then the leap into action. Going from contemplation to creation. Letting go of the need to stay solid and still. The willingness to be fluid; to deconstruct and be liberated. Out in the world experiencing and giving, which miraculously happens at the same time.
This has been a year of deconstruction and rebuilding for me. Trauma flares, a long Fall season of acute bronchitis and meaningful recovery with the help of friends. My clinical work, delicate and richer than it’s ever been. Trusting my instincts beyond all I’ve been taught. I pray your trust is growing too. In the New Year I invite you to join me in taking Bob Marley’s advice, “Forget your weakness and Dance.”
Always, Jeanne, my sweet, elderly Liliana and my precious naughty girl, Emma Jane :”)
Jeanne C. Folks, D.Min, LPC
CT Psychotherapeutic Resources
12 Old Farms Road Avon, CT 06001
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